Common Problems & Barriers
These are just some of the barriers I can help you overcome using these techniques
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Do you find yourself nervous, stressed or anxious about doing things, seeing people or impending events? Is this happening more often than not?
Or, do you find your body experiencing strong uncomfortable sensations such as breathing rate changes, pounding heart in your chest for no apparent reason, tension in your jaw or clenched fists? Is this getting in the way of you doing what you want to do?
Some people, without realizing it, can find themselves stuck in a fear-based mindset. This means any small insignificant seeming action, person, place, sound, smell (anything) can trigger an immediate physical stress response in their body.
Every action has a purpose, as humans, we do not function unnecessarily, and all of our behaviours and abilities are learnt. This means if we have an unhelpful response in certain situations, then we can unlearn it.
Our below-conscious system is designed to keep us safe therefore it programmes itself on success results, to the subconscious mind success = being alive. Unfortunately, as we grow those previous learnings may not be useful any more and can stay stuck in place, so learning what drives our reactions can give us a great deal more choice for change.
My role is to help you to alter the way your mind is reacting to triggers. I help you to change your underlying beliefs, reprocess traumatic experiences and connect with your BodyMind, the part of you that is in the control seat. This means you can create new resources by a shift in perception that allows for new, upgraded responses. Responses that are beneficial to who you are now, in alignment with the goals you have and the person you want to become.
How do we do this?
Your communication is key. The nonverbal expression of your communication will direct and lead us to source. Then we can utilise modalities for change such as NLP, HMP, EMDR, hypnosis, creative visualization and others to get you the changes you want.
When we learn from our earlier life experiences change happens naturally. Anxieties can seem to just disappear. It can all be done in an upbeat, interesting and relaxed session in person or online.
Just in a conversation, using the art of language you can overcome your life’s obstacles.
Feeling low for long periods of time? A sense of hopelessness, feels like you can’t do anything right, hate what you say, what you do, how you look, life is a struggle, no energy. Have you lost interest in the things you used to love? Ever dream about the peace of going to sleep and not having to wake up?
The list goes on, people can experience depression in so many different ways, it can feel dark and endless. To the point where people consider taking their lives and some do.
Another difficulty can be that when in a state of depression, some people don’t know they’re in it. It’s an impending sense of despair, hopelessness that is life without realising they’re depressed which means they don’t know this is not how it’s meant to be. For me this is devastating because I know it can be helped. It really can, for some it can happen quickly in a light, upbeat and interesting way, just by witnessing their mind and body with intention.
In the way I work there is no need to delve into and try to talk about what you think is depressing you because this can be depressing in itself. So in this way I work very differently from a counsellor.
Through your communication we can discover hidden, unconscious information. This found via your nonverbal elements, powered by your subcoscious mind. We harness all the information you’re generating to allow you to tap into what is keeping you stuck.
Depression can be a good example of the “how” we do things with our minds that we’re not yet consciously aware of (until I show you.) How our mind ‘does’ information directly impacts on our mood and demeanour. How it then goes on to perceive all the external information that it’s exposed to, perpetuatues the problem. Have a look at this video to get an idea of how the mind impacts our mood.
Working with depression may be an educational experience, so you may learn how your mind has been keeping you stuck in a depressed state, why you’re so aware of all the things in your life that compound the problem. Or you may creatively untangle yourself through indirect somatic expression. This means we follow your body, the sensations it expreiences and what they represent to you. It is a very personal unique experience, soley yours.
During a session with me, you are given the opportunity to learn what your subconscious is communicating, or what is driving your behaviours and creating your abilities to be successful in your struggles.
We are human beings with an incredible system that allows us to achieve what it is we are setting out to achieve. This is great if your system is lined up to achieve that which you want. The problem is these goals are supported or not supported by our early life learnings. Its all very well beating yourself up and working really hard and changing this and changing that outside of you but if your underpinning beliefs and values are not supporting this new change, it won’t happen.
This is why it’s important to connect with your mind and learn what’s driving you unconsciously, then you can choose and swap old limiting learnings for an upgrade. To help you see things in a different light.
Can’t get to sleep or waking up at unsociable hours and unable to fall back to sleep? Mind churning as soon as you get to bed? Insomnia can commonly be a result of anxiety or depression and can also be learnt behaviour. It can appear out of the blue for no apparent reason or it can creep in gradually. How has it been for you?
Insomnia itself is often not the problem, it’s what is causing the body to remain awake or to wake up that is the problem.
There can be a lot going on behind the scenes to manifest itself as a continuous inability to sleep. In my experience, it can take a few more sessions to resolve but it’s definitely the most wonderful thing to get back your sleep again. Peace of Mind, literally.
What are you using to distract you? How are you taking the sting out of life?
Addictions come in many guises and can be thought of as a way to numb the pain. They are all consuming and my role is to help you to break the need. It is the underlying cause of the pain, the problem behind the need to self medicate that we look to adjust. This is a strong way to overcome any self destruction. There is a difference between addictions and habits, learn more here.
When working with addictions taking into consideration how the mind works will give you a greater understanding of why there is a problem. The mind, when stuck on something that it perceived to be a threat at one time or another can cause the body to continuously experience a stress response.
To feel more ‘normal’, relaxed, comfortable a coping strategy is used. An external something that can have the ability to ease the mind, or a distraction for the mind to bring temporary relief. Consuming internally or externally, ie drinking, drugs, or shopping, hoarding. See a picture here? Because this relief is short-lived the dosage or frequency must increase to help maintain the superficial status quo.
We need the mind to let go, to relearn, to change what it is hooked up on before we can feel comfortable enough not to rely on external substances or habits. Many people can also make big changes just by focusing on the outcome they want. What we call solution focused therapy. Your mind always has the answer to your problems. I want to help you get your answers quickly, in what ever way is best for you.
Learn how your mind works, take control of your problem by resolving the underlying issue, or direct your mind to get you your goal. You deserve to feel at ease, and i honestly believe we all have the ability to be free, no need for coping strategies so you don’t need to self medicate.
Trauma & Stress
What is Trauma?
Trauma can be described as a situation where one is helpless. It doesn’t have to be a major shock or incident. It can be an ongoing experience, eg a relationship, a job, any situation over any time frame. One person’s trauma can be another persons salvage, so it’s very important never to put our own perceptions and meanings onto someone else’s problem. No matter how big or small the impact over time can be detrimental if not addressed.
“To draw an analogy: a man’s suffering is similar to the behaviour of a gas. If a certain quantity of gas is pumped into an empty chamber, it will fill the chamber completely and evenly, no matter how big the chamber. Thus suffering completely fills the human soul and conscious mind, no matter whether the suffering is great or little. Therefore the “size” of human suffering is absolutely relative.” Viktor Emil Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning
I work with the individual and the suffering they are experiencing. No one else’s opinion, judgement or ideas matter. Just you and how it is impacting on you. Have a look at the common conditions related to ongoing stress, recognise more than one?
Some people don’t know consciously what is causing their stress, so it’s my job to work with them to allow the uncovering of what is triggering them. From there we use tools for change such as hypnosis, HMP, EMDR, NLP.
Fears & Phobias
What is causing your system to have an allergic response? Yes, allergic.
Our physical body goes into the same physiological response as an allergy when experiencing a severe fear or phobia. Interesting isn’t it?
I work with people to discover what could have triggered this very strong reaction. Under the premise that something caused it because you weren’t born with it were you not? It is a learned response from your system to keep you safe. It becomes problematic when it begins limiting you. Impacting on your life, stopping you from experiencing and living to your full potential.
Heights, for example, enclosed spaces, water, dogs, spiders, the list is endless. Arachibutyrophobia, for example, is the fear of peanut butter sticking to the roof of your mouth!! Nuts huh?!?! But so very very real, and in some cases fatal.
Whatever someone’s fear is, the impact it has on their body is physical and real. It can be debilitating so it must be sorted.
I can help people remove these very quickly. Enjoying life again to the full, and interrupting the passing on to their children. Phobias, fears, they are learnt, it’s vital to keep children from learning unnecessary limitations so they can see how safe and beautiful the world can be.
Struggling with Reading? Is your child getting behind in school, low in confidence, not socialising, quiet around certain people or in certain places? Or even as an adult are you or do you know of someone who is struggling? Not sure what to do even though you know you know something is needed?
Learning how your mind works and changing the internal strategy for learning can allow you or your child to get back to enjoying, interacting and learning life skills rather than worrying or stressing.
Light informal one-to-one coaching using the HMP to help sort the problem, the work is tried and tested and now being brought into the education system in Europe.
During a session, you will be showing me how you learn (even though you’re not aware of this yet), how you do reading and spelling. This means we can access and if necessary upgrade your strategy which can almost instantly impact on your abilities. Yes, you will be putting the work in in the session!
If you want more detail, keep reading, or if this is enough for you to be curious and get your grey matter firing then get in touch now by emailing me.
Learning difficulties can lead to mental health issues. This is why it is important to work with these problems. It will create a difference for your learning which will impact on all other areas of life.
When it comes to learning difficulties such as dyslexia it is important to solve your own development within your own mind. It can be easy to just throw your hands in the air and give up, avoiding all manner of daily struggles which can lead to a very limited life. Anxiety will always be intertwined with learning difficulties, which is why it is key to identify these issues early in order to work out the best ways of working through your own issues internally.
You are the only one that can make the changes, which is why it is so difficult as people will often see no escape because they’re not aware there are ways out. There are options out there for you, and the Hudson Mind Process is one of the quickest and most effective tried and tested methods for change.
The Visual Cortex in the brain is continuously lit up in someone experiencing PTSD, even when they are looking at a blank wall. So the question really must be, what is causing the visual processing area of the brain to be highly active when looking at a white wall?
Learning how the mind works will give you insights into how this can be. Any experienced traumatic event if not understood, processed or filed away in the mind will get stuck. Stuck in a way that means it is repeatedly replayed in the mind on a below, yet also conscious level triggering a constant stress response, they will be stuck in fight or flight. For a more scientific description, read about The Hudson Mind Theory.
Medication can not change a memory. It can make it hazier which means while the medication, be it prescription or self medicating is working the system can relax. Unfortunately when the meds wear off, it comes back. Also as time goes on the dosage is often needed to be increased. The memory must be reprocessed for the system to know the threat is over or difficulties such as mental health problems, flashbacks, physical health issues, addictions will almost certainly arise.
During a Mind Coaching session, you won’t have to talk about the experience, some people don’t even remember or block it out. We use the ways in which the information is stored in the mind to make changes allowing the subconscious to process the trauma giving rise to its release and finally letting go. All this will bring the body and mind back into balance and harmony again. EMDR, HMP, NLP and Hypnosis are tools to help the mind release its bind to a moment frozen in time.
Chronic pain is commonly defined as any pain which lasts more than 12 weeks. It is persistent, steady or intermittent, coming and going without any apparent reason.
It can occur in nearly any part of the body and can include Headaches; Migraines; Nerve damage pain; Joint pain and swelling; Back pain; Unexplained all over body aches and pains. Other symptoms can include; Tense muscles; Lack of energy; Limited mobility.
Depending on what is going on for each individual predicates how we work with this. It could be the rerouting of a well trod pain pathway will help you move forward. Or looking into what’s causing the internal friction, old trauma, unresolved issues. Old trauma can be the biggest limiting factor to you recovering from a chronic condition. This article can help give you more insights into the link between trauma and chronic pain. You will have the information inside of you – the key to whats holding you back. It’s my job to help you begin to recognise where you’re not congruent in life. What I mean by this is when your conscious mind says one thing and your subconscious mind shows something else.
We can discover this through your non-verbal communication. You can learn for yourself what has been holding you back and make the right changes that fit with the ideal you you are wanting to be.